How To RESET Summer Break Screen Time With Kids
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How To RESET Summer Break Screen Time With Kids

When we were kids, we weren’t attached to screens and we stayed outside until the street lights came on. We really didn’t have decent internet til my mid-teens. Whatever happen to those times, getting the kids to play outside is like treating to make a plea deal with a judge. With 3 of 4 kids only being here over summer break, I try to focus on the kids. We try to do at least 1-2 crafts & recipes to share on the blog a month. The kids loving doing stuff for the blog, which is pretty amazing if you ask me.

Before you start, consider using the practices “procedural justice.” Many studies have shown that even if people don’t get their way, as long as they feel respected and that they had some say in the matter, i.e. if there was procedural justice, people are much more likely to go along with rules. It is natural for kids and teens to push back against limits. That’s the normal behavior of an evolving individual. Just remember to start from a place of positivity. You want to convey to them that you really understand why they like tech time so much and that is why we need strategies to keep tech activities in balance.

How To RESET Summer Break Screen Time With Kids

Resetting is Possible

So often parents ask me how to put in rules after having gotten very lazy about them. You can say to your kids, “It’s summer and it is time to reset family policies.” Resets can also happen when you gain insights into new scientific data related to the benefits of non-screen time things such as sleep, helping others, exercise, outdoor play and on an on.

Modeling Integrity

You want to parent with integrity in line with what you value to maximize benefits for your kids. You will want to show that even though it takes work to ensure there is not excessive screen time, you are willing to do the work because acting in line with your values is something that you care deeply about.

Expanding Horizons

Ask your kids specific things they want to happen this summer that are a bit different than their usual activities. For instance, people they may want to get to know better, projects they want to start, a park they want to explore, or a new part of town they want to visit. And add some of yours, such as welcoming someone who moved into your neighborhood two months ago — yes, even two months later is still so much appreciated by people!

How To RESET Summer Break Screen Time With Kids

Put it on a Calendar

Once you have defined some things you all want to do, to increase the chance of actually getting to the ideas – mark it on a calendar that is visible to all, like on the refrigerator. It is so easy to have aspirations but then when the day starts and everyone heads out or onto their own thing, the day can disappear.

Adding in Healthy Screen Time

For some families, it works well to have a rule that says for every hour of video games that are pure adrenaline driven (think Fortnite), that there should be an equal hour of games that do things like focus more on strategy (think Civilization or pro-social games). Another swap: for every hour of YouTube video, see how they can create their own videos for an hour — how about making a video montage from home videos? Another swap is for every 2 hours of teen Netflix shows, an hour of a mind-expanding documentary like Planet Earth or a fun TED Talk such as “The Surprising Science of Happiness”.

An example of a pro-social game is Minecraft, I can tell you for a fact that the kids and I can spend a few hours on Minecraft. So we have to learn how to do everything from making everything we need, and how creative we can create our “homes” with the things we go out and “mine”.

How To RESET Summer Break Screen Time With Kids

Make a screens-on/off vacation plan

Consider guidelines about screen use during road trips, flights, and family time while you’re away on vacation together. Even if you have always allowed your kids to be on their phones in the car, it’s perfectly reasonable to change it up for a trip. Here are some family podcasts I suggest.

Fight fire with fire. The more you can have systems in place to have tech go off at defined times, the better. Here is a list of apps that can assist you once you set your rules, whether that’s a certain number of hours of screen time in a day or certain times it can or cannot be used. XBOX is known to have great controls on their gaming systems. And if you need help with why 3 hours is too much, check out this blog.

House help projects

Now is a good time to get more creative about possible “house help” projects for the summer (AKA chores, but I prefer house help) and start thinking up new tasks that will give your children new skills. Tessa has offered to make dinner two nights a week and is trying new simple recipes that she chooses. I have some stairs I want painted and other household projects that we will sit down and map out this week. I know how fast summer goes by.

How To RESET Summer Break Screen Time With Kids

Don’t give up on reading

The kids and I are headed to the library in a few days and I can’t wait. Libraries are magical — surrounded by people reading, toddlers clenching stacks of picture books, and the featured books when you first come in… and then for your kids to pick out some books that interest them. Even if your teen just reads one or two this summer that is something! Many libraries have programs to encourage summer reading. Another idea is to organize a book club with your child and a few other families. If a family will be away when you plan to meet, see if they can Skype or Zoom for some of the discussion.

Here are a few questions to get the conversation going:

  1. What are two things you would like to accomplish this summer?
  2. Is there a new skill, like video editing or creating music or coding that you might be interested in learning more about?
  3. How much time do you think is reasonable per day this summer for you to spend doing things like playing video games or scrolling through social media?
  4. What “house help” projects can you come up with that would teach you a skill you are interested in — or at least mildly interested in? Or at least not completely dreading?
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Hey! I'm Natalie and I live in North Carolina. I'm a single mama of four awesome kiddos. These are my thoughts on life, motherhood, fitness and everything in between.

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